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As a relationship and dating specialist in the Law of Attraction field, I often get asked what my favorite books on relationships are. This is a really difficult question to answer–mostly because so many relationship books anymore are so focused on negativity that they don’t really jive with the theories behind the Law of Attraction and Success Principles. Most of these books discuss “playing games,” “being bitchy,” “giving ultimatums,” and even “getting the ring.”
Utilizing the Law of Attraction to attract your perfect mate does not include any of these gaming tactics. As such, I have a difficult time recommending them to people without some pretty serious qualifiers. So what follows is a list of my favorite books which actually do encourage a “Law of Attraction” type way to meet “the one,” and a very healthy way to maintain that relationship once you land him or her.
1. You are a Badass
I realize that “You are a Badass” isn’t technically a relationship book. But Jen Sincero is a total genius and she actually refers a lot to the reader whose goal it is to meet their special someone. She encourages us to use the Law of Attraction and a change in both attitude and language in order to change your life for the better. This includes finding “the One.” If you read this book with that in mind, you’ll have a much easier time finding (and keeping) the relationship you want.
2. The Five Love Languages
The Five Love Languages is a book that helps you both understand your own needs and the needs of any partner you may find. It shows you what it is you want or need in a partner while you’re looking for one, and also how to take care of each other when you do find what you’re looking for. If you’re able to pin down both your and your partner’s primary and secondary love languages, you’re more able to negotiate the relationship without the “peril” most people refer to. That, in itself, is worth it.
3. Men Are from Mars and Women Are from Venus
This book is older, but the lessons in it are timeless. Again, this is less about how to find your perfect person, but all about how to keep them. I read this book years and years before I met someone. I can’t tell you how much easier it’s made negotiating a LTR for the first time. I know more about the communication issues we may face together and exactly how to negotiate them in an effective and loving way. While you may think to only read this after you’ve found your relationship, I’d suggest to read it when you can. It’s worth it!
4. The Success Principles
Again, “The Success Principles” is not a book specifically about relationships, but if you utilize the lessons within the book with the intent to find love, you will succeed. The principles in this book show you exactly how to review your language, your goals for what you want in a partner, and to surpass any limiting beliefs you might have about your own worthiness in relationships. All of this is necessary in order to find a wonderful relationship.
5. Become Your Own Matchmaker
Patti Stanger has taken the road of “reality TV star.” However, that doesn’t mean she doesn’t know her shit. While I would warn you to take some of her “rules” with a grain of salt (mostly because you want to work from a place of positivity and not a place of lack or fear), I think she’s right in many ways. Read this one after you’ve read at least “You are a Badass,” but preferably after you read “The Success Principles also, just so you’re super aware of the rules she may have which won’t support your endeavor into finding the One with the Law of Attraction. Other than that, I think her suggestions on finding someone as well as her wardrobe selections and some of her rules are entirely worth the read.
***Bonus – Date Night In
This is technically a cook book. However, there are so many anecdotes in it regarding supporting and nurturing the relationship you’ve found. Ashley and her husband found themselves floating apart in the whirlwind of life with kids, jobs, and responsibilities. But rather than go into “fight” mode, they decided to make an effort to reconnect to each other. Money was sometimes tight and going out once a week wasn’t necessarily an option. So they started a “Date Night In” for themselves. When you read through this book, the recipes are great, but it’s the relationship stories and tips that make this book really special. Again, don’t use this out of fear, but out of a “knowing” that the Universe wants you to have the life you want. As such, you can use the tips and recipes in this book to strengthen the relationship you find, knowing it’s your forever-person and WORTH a little work.
So here’s to finding your perfect match! And here’s to the authors who help us do it with their amazing relationship books. If you want to buy any of these books, click on any of the photos for a link, click HERE for a list of my favorites which include these books, or click on the links below.
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